Monday, July 26, 2010

Bellydance Nerds

Pic found here      

I have always been a teensy bit starstruck. In my preteens it was Michael J. Fox. He was so cute, so approachable.I cried and cried when I realized that after pouring my 12 yr old heart out onto a piece of paper, he responded with a form letter.( but I still taped it to the wall over my bed and fell asleep to his pre-printed scrawly handwriting every night for years). Then in my teen years it was Axl Rose, Metallica, Iron Maiden. I was especially crazy about Axl and Gn'R.
     Then I entered the radio business, and got really jaded with ,"stars". Some of them were royal JERKS...Sheryl Crow, and some of them were super super nice, John Mellencamp ( although we were told that if we uttered the word "cougar" he'd hang up on us). I guess I realized that being a star can mean a lot or it can mean absolutely nothing. ( ahem...Octomom).
       Last night at a bellydance thing I was talking to the lovely Azadi about her facebook profile pic which happens to be a picture of her and Rachel Brice. While gushing about various dance "stars" I realized that my star struck sickness never really went away.
     Case in point:

     The Scene: Me ordering costumes from L Rose last week, speaking with what had to be the nicest woman on the planet.

        Place: the phone

        ( after all the details were worked out)

       Lora Anthony: "Well thank you, Tara for your order."

      Me: "Thank you, and with whom am I speaking?"

       Lora: "Oh this is Lora."

       Me: Frozen, realizing that this was Shoshanna's mom, and would it be terribly bad taste to say    something to the effect of "oh I am your daughters biggest fan!).
         
        "Um, o.k. thanks."

     I hate that I would be a tiny bit nervous around Delilah, Neon, Michelle Joyce, not crazy nervous, not freako stalker-y nervous, but a tiny bit. Enough to put me in the category of "still star struck". I am attending a Suhalia workshop in November, and I would like to get a picture with her. Not enough to be part of the horde that follows her around asking, but if it happens organically,then it would make me happy.
     Yes, I am a bellydance nerd. Yes, I want a picture with Suhalia, yes I would probably tape it to my bedroom wall. ( just kidding.....but I might want to).

   

      

Friday, July 23, 2010

Paula's Up Up Down Down's and Other Stories



In the past couple of years I have heard the idea of a ,"dance vocabulary" being tossed around. Nadira Jamal in her WONDERFUL Improvisational Toolkit Volume 1 movement recall goes into great detail about making a dance vocabulary. It has taken me a while but I finally made one.
      I guess I thought it would be easy. I started about six months ago with the idea that I would start with the basics, snake arms, ribcage circles, etc. Then I realized that I wanted to write things down that didn't have names, for instance this cool over the head arm shuffle thingy that my former teacher, Donna, does, or this toe pointed traveling hip circle that my first teacher Sheva taught me, or my most recent teacher Gypsy/Paula's high energy little hip up up down down's in a tiny counterclockwise little circle. ( or personal circle as one teacher used to call them). The Dance Vocabulary has gone from an idea to a stockpile of personal memories, as the only way I know how to describe some of these moves is with throwing in the teacher/professional dancers name. Usually just doing them or reading them takes me back to the time/place/hafla/workshop that I first learned them. It is really cool, and I highly recommend it.
    I have been using my dance vocabulary as a practice tool. I put on some steady classroom type music and go slowly through my vocabulary of movements. It helps reinforce the stuff I don't want to forget.

SOOOOOOOOO here are some tips Siroun Naaga style if you wanna do one of these..........

      Tips On Making a Dance Vocabulary List ( because I couldn't think of a more creative title)

1. Don't put in there freaking everything you know. Put in there stuff that means something to you,or that you want to be a part of your regular dance. A Saidi Hop is nice, but is it something that you do to 80% of the music you dance to? Probly not.

2. Be patient. At first you will think," this is it? I expected it to be longer", but soon the floodgates will open and memories will come pouring in. Keep a pen and paper handy so if you remember something while you are sitting on the sofa with hubby watching True Blood you can jot it down.

3. If you are going to use this as a practice/drill -the -moves -I -want- to -keep- in -my -body -memory kind of thing like I do, then make sure that the order you put the moves on the paper has a leetle flow to it. Yes, this takes a little time, but it is jarring to go from a pony step right into a Zar head thing.

4. Describe them in a way that makes sense to you. Some of my explanations sound wierd but the second I look at the paper I know exactly what I mean.

5. Is kind of like four....if you have heard them called hip bumps/hip lifts/hip ups....use whatever you call them in your head. It will stick better. We all know that there is no standard for names of moves.


So below is a sample of my lists copied and pasted right from the 'ole documents. Please don't laugh, I liberally use the word "thingy."






Siroun Naaga Dance vocabulary:

Basic moves:






Step touch


Mayas


Rollup/rolldown


ribcage circles parallel


ribcage circles vertical


M & M’s


M&N’s


M&N&O’s


M&N&O&Q’s


Shimmy:


¾ shimmy walk


Shimmy w/ maya


Shimmy in round


Shimmy with undulations


Shimmy with alternating shoulder shimmies ( ansuya)


Shimmy with roll up


One leg shimmy


Earthy shimmy


Choo choo shimmy


Single shoulder articulations


Head slides


Pelvic locks/pops as an accent


Omis


Basic Egyptian


Snake arms


Genie arms


Large hip circles


Large hip circles with bent waist


Crossed arm hip circle


Hip drop/kicks with raised arm


Hip slides


ribcage slides


Snake hips down


Snake hips up


Figure eight hips


Hip bumps


Stomach pops


Belly rolls


Deep undulations ( camels)


Shimmy side to side


Stomach flutters


All arm variations


Jewel


Half moons


Hagala


Level change all the way down w variations


Choo choo square


Popeyes


Fifi hip downs


4 point locks


Hip twists


Cha cha cha


Pony


B Egyptian with Twist


B Egyptian to side ( with twist)


Crazy 8’s D-style


Tush Push


Box step


arabesque


Turns:


One foot quick turn


Hip bump kick turns


Kick turn thingy ( Samra)


Donna knee turn


3 point turn


Katia arm turn


Aziza slow turn


paula hip twist turn


Pinwheel turn


Paddle turn


Pivot turn ( 2 way)


M’s diagonal tribal turn thingy








Traveling steps:


Chase’ with floaty arms


Undulation walk


Susan shimmy arm travelling step (to side)


Grapevine


Hayati inta walk ( step leg out to one side) arms overhead


Half moon walk


Ooh walk


Aah walk


Snake hip travel


Sheva pointed toe hip circle( travel)








Short combos/ layer combos I like:


Kuwaiti head roll w/ shoulder/hip accents


Sadie hip bumps with side to side hips in circle


Back bends w J's arms


Chest circles with simultaneous hip circles


Donna arm over head shuffle


Paulina hip lock with arm over waist


Paula hip up up/ down down in counter clockwise circle


Hetet Bet Turn ( four way, arms go inward, layer shimmy)


Neon forward hips/arms out


Hip circle with hip accent to one side and head thingy


Sadiyya reverse pelvic undulation with shimmy walking backwards


Magidah backwards shuffle with arms








































    

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

The Happy Drunk Reviews



The problem with most DVD ( or book or CD) reviews is that most people feel the need to be intellectually superior and in their minds it means never giving five stars ( or thumbs up or zils) to anything. Not me, I review like I drink. I am a happy drunk. ( when I do drink,and that is rare) I am never the one throwing fists, you'd be more likely to see me saying," no, but I really love you" and making ," friends" with perfect strangers. I am the same way with reviewing.
    In the two places I review Food.com ( formerly recipezaar.com) and Amazon.com, I usually do five stars unless there is something glaringly wrong with the product. Even if it ain't my thang I can appreciate time and effort spent in putting together a product. I only have a few beefs ( can you pluralize that?) with bellydance DVDs. And they tend to be the same things over and over.....
    Being a DVD Whore, I buy a lot of bellydance DVD's. I don't care about angle, or production value, or backdrop or all that other stuff that reviewers like to talk on and on about in their snotty three page reviews. I care about two things:
     1. Use-ability-Is there something on this DVD that a regular ole' bellydancer can use,

    2. Is it Marketed As What it is-What level is it? Is the content what is stated on the cover?

As long as I am not buying a DVD that is marked for advanced with beginner material, or buying something that is all talk and boring me to death with stuff that most dancers already know then I am happy. Even if I take two new things away from a DVD I am pleased.Wouldn't you pay $20 if someone taught you something you could use,whether it be a combo, idea, or technique? All the details like angle etc. can be unimportant if the content is good. If Suhalia is telling me how to fly around the room on my Isis wings then I don't care if the DVD was shot in her bathroom.

     So I am gonna start doing some reviews......WHY? Because you know I am a "bellydance nazi" as my BFFF so eloquently called me this evening during our three hour phone call, and I like to throw my opinion around. ( no shit? you are saying).
   Second thing you are saying is ," why would we want to read a review if we know that it will most likely be five stars every time?" Cuz I am gonna give you the real deal, yo. If Suzy FlashyPants spends one hour describing snake arms on an intermediate DVD I am gonna tell you. If you buy a "How to Wear Your Veil Like a Turban" DVD and Mamacita tosses her golden locks around never getting to the point, well then I will let you know. This is needed, believe me. I have bought many DVD's labeled as one thing,but being quite the Jekyll and Hyde. I am poor, I am a product of this shitty economy and if I plunk down my hard earned cash for a DVD then I want it to be worthwhile. ( and I am sure you do too)........
    

Oh and if you are wondering where this rash of blogging is coming from, I can't sleep. My crush on Anthony Bourdain can only sustain me in the wee morning hours for so long until I run out of episodes to watch. So its my daughters Teddy Grahams ( the chocolate chip ones aren't half bad), and sitting at the computer until my eyes droop.

There it is, expect some Happy Drunk Reviews in the future. Ten thumbs up!

Monday, July 19, 2010

Unsolved Mysteries of Bellydance



Unsolved Mysteries of Bellydance

1. Why can't they make sturdier dance canes? Seriously, my four year old could make better ones using duct tape and some cardboard. ( which is what they are probably made of anyway).

2. I know Raqs Sharki/Sharqi is the authentic term and all, but all it does is make me think of sharks.

3. You know how you are supposed to have a "go-to" move? Well I must have go-to ADHD or something because my go-to move changes every week or so. Last week I was rockin the roll ups roll downs, this week it is this sassy knee up thingy I saw in a Sadiyya combo. Maybe they make a pill for people who can't hang on to a go-to. I gotta get me some.

4. How come bacon and bellydance have never been combined? Bacon is delicious and one of my favorite things and bellydance is almost as awesome as bacon. The two need to meet. Bacon-flavored bedlah maybe? I am sure it has been done.

5. Are all fusion/tribal dancers badass? ( I am just kidding on this one, of course you are....now don't hurt me or I'll throw some glitter at you.) You know they hate glitter, makes 'em melt or somethin'.

6. The makeup thing. Some people never get the hang of the makeup thing.

7. How many beginner DVD's does a world need? For the love of god.

8. Melodia pants.  I will admit they have grown on me some,but when I first saw them I felt a little dizzy. They can't decide what they want to be....are you a skirt? bellbottoms? Fish tails? Loin cloth? Are you going to flap and fly away with your little leg-wings? They are one wash in Woolite away from being homeless person attire.  For $80 dollars a pop I deserve an explanation.

9. Wearing shoes. O.k. I know this is a matter of preference,but why would you want to wear shoes if you don't have to?
" no thanks honey, I know I just got home from work and all and I have been standing in these god-forsaken heels all day, but I'd like to keep them on. Actually I want to go dance in them".
Be free man, let it all hang out. How many times in life are we asked to be barefoot?

10. WHY is it even a "thing" to be asked how long you have been dancing? I have been dancing since '98 but there are plenty of dancers out there who leave me in the dust and have been dancing for a much shorter time. A teacher once asked me in front of the class how long I'd been dancing and after I told her I wanted to add," no really,lower your expectations. It ain't gonna be that great". Dancers wear their years like patches on a boy scout....who friggin' cares?

11. Plays on words a la bellydance. You know when there is a play on the word Time/Thyme? Like time on a clock and the herb time? I HATE that. I also hate plays on the word Raqs. Raq and roll, "you Raq", etc. Just for the record, I don't find that shit funny. I think it is too obvious, kind of like flea market t-shirt, bumper sticker material.......o.k.maybe it is funny the first time. Put it in the same category as the words," syke", and "not".

Sunday, July 18, 2010

A Blog about PP.


Whahaha. I am 12 years old. *snicker*. Actually this IS a post about PP. Presence, and Practice. But for those of you who thought this might be about urinary function and clicked on this anyway well, then, hmmmmm.

Dance requires two things. Presence and Practice. All the other things that are popping in your brain can fall under one of these two categories.

Presence: Being there, being in your skin when you are dancing and not in your head,being PRESENT. I know, it is hard, believe me, not to either A. count, or B. evaluate the various looks you get from your audience, or C. panic. But try to drag yourself back into your center, feel your skin, feel your arms and legs, take the energy that is drag racing around in your brain and re-route the track down to your heart. Makes all the difference.

Practice: Does no good to be present if you haven't practiced. In order for your body to know what to do when you are dancing and being present ( see above), ya gotta drill. Ya gotta dance at home, and pull out the veil that sits in your dance bag only to be brought out once a week for class even though you promise yourself that this week you will make time to practice but then the week flies by and class time rolls around again. My bestest teacher could spot a non-practicer from a mile away, and at the end of every class she'd say in this motherly/sisterly voice....."ladies, you have to practice this at home".
    Furthermore, I do not advise being present when you are dancing if you have not practiced. You will look terrible, like an amateur. ( yay, I got to use the word furthermore. I never get to use that word).

So I am not known for simplifying, but there ya go. That is pretty simple.

But for those of you who just have to GO THERE.....what about being Present when you Practice? Can you just turn off your brain and drill the moves? Should you put in the care and sense and feeling when you practice, that you would when you are dancing?
Got two things to say on that. My bestest teacher said," What you do in class is what you will do when you dance in front of an audience". If you are thinking "this doesn't matter, it is only classtime...." then think again. The body has EXCELLENT memory, and when you don't have the luxury of only thinking about your steps, your brain and nerves are racing, then what you have drilled will come out, sloppy hands and all.

This quote sort of says it all.
                                                " It is not so much the number of exercises,
                                          as the care with which they are done,
                                           That progress and skill depend"
                                                                            - August Bournonville

                                                     and

                                       " Movement without meaning is just exercise".
                                                                           - Marie Brooks



As far as practice goes I used to think in terms of quantity,but now I'd much rather have 15 minutes where I am paying attention, than 45 where I am just trying to cram in a DVD.

PP. Easy to remember.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Seventy-ninth Schmevendney-ninth



This is my 79th post. Most people celebrate their 100th post, but because I am such a rebel *eye roll* I have to be different. So in honor of the 79th post I am gonna post 79 things.....wait, who I am I kidding, neither I nor you have that kind of patience. How bout instead I post:

Ten Things I Love About Bellydancing and Ten Things I Hate About Bellydancing

Lets start with LUVVV, it makes the world go 'round, you know.

1. The people. I have a special connection to my "bellydancing friends" that I don't have with anyone else. There is something intimate about moving, sweating together that bonds. I love my "sisters".....shout out to Patty, Debby, Joyce, Donna, Jeannie,Joelle,Kris, Ness, Wendy,Cissy,Rose,Susan,Julie, Rach, Melissa, Paula, Melissa, all the teachers I have ever had and everyone else I forgot. I love you guys, for real.

2. Props. How much F'n fun, and what other hobby in the world encourages you to swing silver sequined canes around, balance swords on your head, clang finger cymbals together, float a beautiful piece of silk in the air, etc. Really? Your mom told you not to play with fire, bellydancers tell you to dance with fire. How badass is that? Can rock climbing or cooking classes be nearly this much fun?

3. Sparklys. When I was a kid I had a treasured set of silver wedge heels circa 1963. I got them at a yard sale for $.50, and they were a good four sizes too big. but they were sparkly, and that was what was important. You know what they say,"Sparkliness is next to Godliness" Or, yeah, something like that.

4. Makes you feel purdy. I could be on the first day of Aunt Flo, or just had a fight with my husband, or been running around after kids all day but the minute I step into class or put on music and dance or go to a workshop, I feel good. Beautiful, proud, "with it", to coin the antiquated phrase.

5. Middle Eastern Music. not to sound like a total shmoe,but I find that Middle Eastern music is so beautiful sometimes it.....makes me cry. For real. Nawal, Natacha, Najwa, your husky, heartfelt voices move me, even when I am standing in the kitchen looking at the mountain of dishes. There is a passion and depth in Middle Eastern music that I can't find elsewhere.

6. Stage makeup. I have always loved makeup, back when I was reading Teen Beat and drooling over Corey Haim, I made my sisters sit still so I could glob on my hot pink/teal eyeshadow all over their eyes. Then I found Michelle Joyce's Secrets of the Stage 3 which has a kick-ass makeup tutorial. Of course that not only gave me a reason to buy more makeup but it introduced me to new products that I cannot not live without....eye primer anyone? It is the elixir of the Gods.

7. Stuff. I like stuff. I like to buy stuff. There are minimalists in the world and I am not one of them. My bellydance wish list is a mile long.

8. It feels natural. Do you really want to hear that this is a womans dance, made for a womans body, and most women find the movements to be very natural? Well, it is true. Don't ask me to play tennis, I don't even want to look at a basketball,but give me a 4/4 and get outta my way.

9. It is challenging. I get bored easily, yes I am somewhat of a princess. ( surprise!) With bellydance there is always something to challenge me. Stage fright, new moves,practice, etc. You can never learn it all.

10. It is cool.  If you have been dancing for a while, you forget how cool it is. Go back, way back to the first time you saw a bellydancer, and how intimidated/impressed/stunned/amazed you felt. I can't think of anything cooler.

O.k., now I am gonna piss all over all of that. Why? Not to get all metaphysical on ya, but everything has its shadow. The pendulum always has to swing the other way, it is the law of life. Not everything is all la-la-la flowers and sunshine all of the time.

Ten Things About Bellydance That make Me Want To Scream

1. The People. NEVER before in any social group have I EVER encountered such cattiness, bitchiness,territorial visciousness and unwarranted competition. ( and I have been in high school, seen lots of nastiness in my involvement with the church, fake -o-rama in my years in radio, etc.) There is a group in bellydance, albeit a small one, that wants to ruin it for everyone by acting like assholes.

2. The crowds. Sometimes you get a good supportive crowd. Sometimes you get a insecure woman who thinks you are dancing specifically for her ugly-ass boy friend. Sometimes you get someone who looks at you like they are watching paint peel. Crowds are a crap shoot.

3.The Prices. Good thing I am a bargain hunter ( $20 for isis wings,thank you very much), or I'd get depressed. The markup on the mostly cheaply made bellydance loot is utterly ridiculous. I RILLY need to learn how to sew. This is an expensive hobby.

4. The Scene. Like the person who annoyingly can't stop talking about their hometown ( ahem,myself), I can't get over how different the scene is from city to city. I naievely thought that bellydance was bellydance, and that it would be the same anywhere you went. DUH. Some BD scenes are great, some are o.k., and some suck.

5.The idiots who no matter how much it is drilled into them can't seem to understand that bellydance is not a sex thing or an excuse to show their tits and suggestively rub themselves.
Yes, moving your body like this is sensual ( although I have been doing this for so long I forget that), yes, you are showing some of your body. But this is an ART FORM. period. Please be a GD professional.

6. Insecurity. I am not sure I understand this one. For some reason bellydance brings out major insecurity in a lot of dancers, and they feel the need to defend it and themselves against any percieved threat. No one owns bellydance, it is for ALL of us.

7. Choreography. I know I am mostly alone on this one. For learning purposes choreography is wonderful. But I HATE HATE HATE it. It makes me feel suffocated. The FIRST thing I ever learned in my FIRST class within the FIRST minute I was there from the famous and amazing late Sheva, was that "this is not a choreographed dance". Of course I panicked at the time, but now I get it.

8. Wierd non-bellydance hybrids that call themselves bellydance. So I don't get in trouble I won't comment further on this one. Do whatever the hell you want to do, juggle frogs, do cartwheels,wear scuba diving gear. But if it ain't bellydance,don't call it bellydance.

9. Divas. Really? Is that necessary? Be a good diva, a la Cher, and not a bad diva a la Martha Stewart. Don't demand green M&M's. Get ALONG. Or try at least.

10. Conviluted "artist" jargon. I am rolling my eyes so hard they hurt right now. It is dancing. Spiritualize it, analyze it, talk about it, but in the end as I have quoted many times, as my sister says," it is just a lot of moving around". Keep it in perspective. I hate to read an article by a dancer and it reads like Tolstoy. This is dancing folks.



Thanks for hangin' with me this long bellydancing peeps!

Friday, July 2, 2010

Gimme That Arabic Expression



We spend the first few months/years ( dependant on the person), of dancing feeling like the freshman trying to catch up to the seniors. We work on the elusive shimmy in front of the mirror, we practice traveling steps across the kitchen floor, and do hip lifts while washing dishes. We start to feel like a bellydancer. Then we perform and seemingly start all over again, our hands were too sloppy, we didn't make eye contact, our transitions didn't look as good on stage as they did in our head. We learn makeup and costuming, we perform and perform. Then, when our bodies can dance, our hearts can open, we get over knock-knee'd stage fright, we become comfortable with who we are as bellydancers, then it is time to learn expression.
  But Naaga, you say, shouldn't you learn expression right off the bat? Well, yes, of course, but until we get all the nuts and bolts of bellydance, all the wheels turning smoothly, can we really pay attention to our expression.
     It needs to be arabic expression.
Imagine a hip-hop dancer without that cool/street/hyper sort of attitude. Imagine a country line dancer without that " we-are-all-just-here-swigging-beer-and wearing-boots" expression. Try to picture a couple doing the Tango with a goofy expression on their face and not the one of passion that we are accustomed to seeing. Just like putting on a costume and neglecting to ,"dress up" the face with makeup and whatnot, neglecting arabic expression in dance, is missing a piece of the puzzle.
    So first I am going to tell you what Arabic expression is, a la Naaga. ( my opinion).
I used to live in Germany. Being an American I was used to the melting pot-ness of America,which is to say that Americans are all different. Sure, most of us are a bit spoiled, and we do have a bit of a collective "the world is our potato" kind of attitude, but because we are made up of so many nationalities, we tend to be so many different things.
    When I went to Germany, everyone was German. Might sound simple, but Germans are a certain way. ( and I have my German friends to vouch for me). Germans like things in order...( alles in ordnung)....Germans are hard to get to know, but once you are in you are IN. Germans have an odd ( to me) sense of humor, preferring the kind of joke that takes hours to wind up. Germans like to work for things. German craftmanship is legendary.
   So why am I saying all of this? To help those of you who don't understand, understand that Middle Eastern expression is its own animal.
      Yes, I know that it varies from country to counrty, but for arguments sake lets lump it all into the phrase "Arabic expression", and know that we are talking about the main bellydance influences AKA Egypt, ( mostly), and Lebanon. Yes, it is much more broad than that, yes there are many more influences, but these are what we will focus on.
      I once heard comedian Greg Proops do a bit on white people and dancing. He basically said that all GOOD dancing comes from warm climates, while he did a silly knees up to imitate the kind of robotic dancing that represents polka, raindance, etc. It was funny, and I got what he meant. When you think of warm emotion, hot blood, passion from every pore, tears that come like a rainfall, it ain't the Swedes that you think of. Or the Germans. It is the Middle Easterners, the Hispanics,the Africans, the warm climates, hot tempers, people that are living their lives to the fullest.
       My sister is married to a Filipino and was very surprised when at their son's first birthday party, everyone got up and danced. There was a feast for two days. Think My Big Fat Greek Wedding...........

I know I am making a rather tedious point but as  bellydancers we need to be able to show a range of emotions, and not just porn face and plastered smiles.

So how do we do that Naaga? Enlighten us. Don't worry I am gettin' ready to tell ya.

Ways to Not Look Like A Soccer Mommy at a Recital: ( also titled, ways to have some damn Arabic expression)

1. KNOW WHAT YOUR LYRICS MEAN!  Don't be grinning and be-bopping around to a song that is saying" I am going to go kill myself because you stole my goat".
There are a LOT of places that you can look up the lyrics to arabic songs.
oriental dancer.net
arabicmusictranslation.com
arabiclyrics.net

Take the time to do this.

2. Study arabic culture. Learn about the art, history, food. Get a better understanding of the dance and what life is like in the Middle East. Bellydance has a lot of unfluences, and a lot of hybrids, but it originated in the Middle East.

3. Be emotional. Yeah, like when you have a crying jag and your husband looks at you like he doesn't know what to do with his crazy wife, or you jump up and down like a freak when so and so proposes to so and so on All My Children. Let out all the emotions out puritanical society says are taboo. ( FYI, I am not saying to cry while you are dancing...)

4. Dance for pleasure first. In a lot of countries, dance is a big part of life. Just go to a Lebanese party, and witness the men getting up and shaking it like John Travolta. These people aren't thinking about their layering. They are just dancing.